My man is my best mate, and what’s wrong with that?
Don’t get me wrong, I was once that girl who refused to budge out the ‘friend zone‘ for years, terrified of losing friendships, claiming ‘he’s just a friend‘, telling myself it was impossible, I mean it never works in Hollywood right? There are so many narcissistic preconceptions about dating in your inner circle, but there’s a reason you’ve invested so much time into them already right?
If it’s not there, it’s not there. But my god, if you do feel something please don’t let it go to waste. I’ve known and been friends with my man for six years now, my closest friend for the last three, before we finally decided to give it a go twelve months back, I can’t help but think about all the time we wasted. The time was always wrong: another man, another woman, another country, another job. But I can, without a doubt say it is the best decision we’ve made.
Plus, think of the perks: you probably went on your first date ages ago, without even thinking! You know each other inside and out, you’ll already know what makes them angry and what can get them in the mood, there’s no second guessing them; you’ll just know. Clearly, you both must have enough in common, and are comfortable around one another, and maybe even their family too, who knows.
I mean, just look at Lily and Marshal (the exception to my Hollywood preconception rant); high school sweethearts who made it across America and back, made it through fights and breakups, only to get married with children. Perfect. I mean, life is no TV series and most definitely nowhere near as cliche or romantic, but there is some truth in their relationship. I mean who wouldn’t want to a chance to live like they do. I feel so privileged to have even the slightest idea of what that can be like, being so immensely close with someone, knowing their hopes and fears, and not giving up on them, being able to date them is a dream come true.
I’m in love with my best friend and it’s the best decision I ever made, I love you J x